What I like about “Dear Miss Manners”

After almost four years of visiting the library and just staring at this encyclopedic like book, I finally got to open it and read its content…Just the first few pages of course since I got classes to attend.

The book which I find interesting is about how people should act with etiquette even in the most unexpected situation. Dear Miss Manners gives the readers the simplest solution in dealing with day-to-day problems with confidence and grace.

As I was reading, here are the quotable lines which I really like…

“If one does the right thing, one does not have to read nasty little books about how to deal with guilt”

“You wouldn’t trust a preacher who never experienced the temptation of sin”

“Who says there is a right way of doing things and a wrong?”

“Two wrongs make a blight”

“We now have a world full of new, improved people who are really ready to move on to improving others. This had better stop before there are no good people left”

“Most people can be trusted to behave personally well when they are in love and perfectly dreadfully when they have been dumped”

“Magazines are full of suggestions to help one fool people about one’s identity”

and the one that struck me most is…..

‎”The bride’s wish that the wedding be “the happiest day of her life” came true. Each succeeding day was slightly less happy than one before, finally they divorced.”

Surrender the WHITE flag

(Random thoughts again)

I am an outgoing person who tries to live for today and enjoy the fullest of life. I can say at some point that I am liberated, aggressive and adventurous when it comes to being an adolescent, a teenager and a young adult.

Being open-minded and a free spirit, I take responsibility with my actions even if often times they are not justifiable and often make me vulnerable.

I may go easy on things but there is a part of me saying, I am conservative when it comes to sex.

Let us face the fact that it has been a trend to most teenagers nowadays to loosen up and be one of the American kids who lose their virginity on promenade.

Whenever I am asked about when will I give up and surrender my white flag…I used to say right away after marriage. So ironic for someone like me to say that yet I said that before. (I just want to clear things…LONG LIVE THE VIRGINS)

Now ask me again, and I will answer it not when…but rather, to whom should I give in?

I no longer consider time and my civil status… I am just particular with the person…the right one of course. But by saying Mr. Right does not necessarily mean my husband or boyfriend. He could be just anyone whom I find worthy. He could be a married man, an ex-boyfriend, a fling or even a random stranger.

What is virginity anyway? Something that is represented a layer that we call hymen. Something that could be repaired with modern technology…but is it really just that? It is more spiritual and moral I guess. As long as I will not be losing it because of force entry like rape, then I shall say I have taken good care of it.

So for me…it will not be when…but to whom

One of the Boys: A Gift or A Curse?

Growing up with a bunch of boy friends around you means being one of them. They treat you just like the same…no special treatments except during rainy seasons since they’ll offer you their coats or jackets.

I’ve always been acting like one of the tough guys since I was a kid and I did not know how to breakaway since I’ve been comfortable with the clothes I wear, toys I play and music I listen to.

I don’t have brothers…biologically speaking…but I got tons of them (just disregard the blood thing) Often times, I’m being misunderstood for a lesbian or a bisexual because of my behavior which I guess, will be permanent.

But what I like being boyish is that:

• you get free body guards anywhere you go—-of course they won’t let anyone harm you. Your enemy is their enemy too regardless if you’re right or wrong…you’ll always have a bunch of back-ups.
• you get free drinks whenever you’re in a bar or just an ordinary store—it has always been a male instinct to impress everyone by giving out freebies.lol.
• you’ll be assured to have jackets/coat during rainy days or while watching movies inside the malls–when it is cold, it is their duty to make you feel warm…I mean, make you comfortable despite the weather or setting…hahaha.(it is not what you think)

the best part of being one of the tough guys is….especially when you like someone:

• you can hug them for free or kiss them on the cheeks sometimes…with no malice…maybe just for them..lol
• you can have them beside you anytime except if they have some dates
• they share some secrets and trust your every word
• call you when they needed advice and ask you out for an ice (T-ice, ice cream..whatever)
• you get gifts during your birthday and even during ordinary days

the hard part of being one with the buds:

• you get sucker punch all the time…since they thought you can’t feel pain (physically) like them
• you can’t wear girly clothes without them laughing at you and saying..you’re so gay!
• you can’t complain when they bring their girlfriends around you and introduced them as if you like them too.
• you can’t refuse drinking sessions
• you can’t get away from their pranks…like having you dance with other girls..I mean slowdance..as if you got what they got…hmpf!
• when they caught you listening to katy perry’s song you’ll be the center of all the jokes…

The hardest part…

when it comes to:

• jokes…most of the time, they could not determine which is a joke from not…
• feelings….never fall for any of them…they won’t notice it..unless he feels the same way too…but never expect he will look at you the way you want him to.

You can always be with them..but falling in love will be your biggest downfall..you’re lucky if they love you too but if not…friendship is better than having nothing to hold on to…

But in my case, I’m happy being one of them…for now… who knows, in the future, I might regret it too…

We are UPIANS, not Cinderella

Living within UPV dorm area is like having a community within a community. There are private dormitories and other five being managed by the university. Students are free to pick the best environment they want to belong as long as they abide by the rules. The whole area also becomes the venue for various activities may these be school related or not.

Since the university does not offer night classes, students are free to do things once the sun is out. It would be unavoidable to see students carrying their laptops, running late for meetings and others simply sitting on benches or making their way to Omp’s and Bentoy’s.

However, some of these routines began to change when the school has been frequent by thefts and holdup incidents increased.  It was August when A 10 pm curfew has been implemented by the administration, not only inside the UPV dormitories but also the whole dorm area.

Everyone was trapped in their cages.

Guards began prohibiting the students to wander when clock strikes 10; a little bit earlier than Cinderella’s.

If this is for safety measures, how sure are they of its effectiveness?

Implementing such rule is illogical. If they are really concerned, they should have planned a better location for the dormitories. Since they have chosen to put it on a hill, they should also face the consequences of their decision.

Simply because crime rates started to rise, they will suddenly take responsibility.  They could have done such thing a long time ago and not just now.

Given the location of the dorm, security is indeed questionable. People can easily get in and out with or without the guards noticing them. The place is forested and has multiple entry points. There are mountains and creeks around, who would even think it is being resided?

If one decides to play hide and seek inside the whole area, it may take months or even years before they see each other. Thus having a curfew is not applicable.

Just like Voltaire said, man is free at the moment he wishes to be. No matter how determined the university in pursuing this regulation it will be of no use. With the kind of attitude UP students have, they always get what they want. There is no way stopping them.

They will not be in the university if they do not know how to think for themselves.

To be responsible is something one should not be reminded of, it is ones own choice.

Only Cinderella had a curfew.  Whether the Upians will or will not go home by 10 in the evening, it is their decision to make not something to be dictated.